When it is okay to hall off and crack your kid? Cursing, talking back, fighting with a sibling, being defiant? Well I'm asking because I have always been a firm believer of the "Time Out" up until recently my oldest has been giving me the sass and talking back to me. You have to understand older child and that is not her to do. But I slapped her the other day for being completely rude to me and yes it changed her attitude it made me feel like crap for doing it. I consider myself a good mother but when my 9 year old daughter is giving me attitude because I will not buy her a Webkin that draws the line. (She has 18 already!) Then I have kid #2. Her attitude since leaving Florida has been wonderful. We have had a few spats of bad behavior but for the most part she has really been great. She wants another Webkin as well but is willing to wait until she has earned it. Shocker there! What child #`1is being is spoiled! And I will not stand for that!
If anyone has any feedback on the "To spank or not to spank" question please let me in on your thoughts.
3 comments:
I'd cut her a little slack right now with the move and all it entails for you guys right now she is going to act out.
I'm sure she'll improve once you guys are at the new house and back to a state of normal!
hang in there :)
The L child? No way! Haven't heard her speak more than 5 words in the past 2 weeks. Could just be the age? Come over to my house to view the 'tude of a 10 yr old.
With both girls (13 and 10 now), the attitude started around 8 or 9. Some had to do with changes in the house (little brother) but the rest is just the tweens. No it hasn't gotten better.
Spanking has its place, but by the time they get older they shrug it off or you hurt yourself ;-)
My advice, which we do more to the 10 year old - take away a webkin for each outburst. Make her PICK the one to give you. No webkin in 10 minutes? Pick another.
Then keep them for 1 week. Unless she does something well above the norm no getting them back early.
At one point last year, when she was 9, I had every stuffed animal but the one she sleeps with in my room.
For the older one, a 'timeout' now means sitting on the chair in her room, with a book and nothing else. 'go to your room' doesn't mean much these days. 'go to the chair in your room' gets her attention.
With my son, I don't know what we're going to do ;-)
Post a Comment